The Hidden Cost of Raising “Well-Behaved” Kids with Katherine Sellery [97]
In this episode, I talk with Katherine Sellery, parenting coach, TEDx speaker, and founder of the Conscious Parenting Revolution, about one of the most common but harmful goals in parenting: obedience.
Katherine explains why raising “well-behaved” kids—children who never rock the boat and always put others’ comfort before their own—can actually lead to self-betrayal and long-term struggles with confidence, boundaries, and safety. Instead of seeking obedience, we can raise kids who:
- Respect themselves and others
- Trust their own inner voice
- Can safely say “no” when needed (the #1 protective factor against harm)
- Feel seen, valued, and respected as individuals
We also explore what happens when parents swing too far into permissiveness, how to set limits without falling back on control and punishment, and why parents need to trust themselves while still learning new tools.
This is a conversation that will challenge the way you think about “good behavior” and give you a vision for raising children who are both respectful and deeply connected to themselves.
